Intro...

I am writing this blog kind of as an online journal. I share with my family and friends the crazy things that I get to experience as a step mom or as we call it in our family a "bonus" mom.
First of all the children are older and know the difference between me and their "real" mom as I am reminded when they come back from visitation.
Second we have an understanding that I am a parent in our home and they do not have to call me mom or refer to me as their mom but if I ask them to clean something up or help me with something they need to do it right away because they know if they don't do it when I ask them to it will be even worse when their dad gets home. If dad has to ask them to do something I have already asked they get a lecture about keeping things clean and setting an example for their baby sister.
Third I encourage the children to love their mother (for some crazy reason their mom has told them that I want to replace her) and have a relationship with their mother.

Having lived in a split home most of my childhood, where I did not know my father at all and my step dad was a jerk and never wanted any of us in the first place, All of these things that my stepies and I have as our silent contract were thing forced on me plus more.

My husband and I have been married for just under 2 years and shortly after our wedding in 2008 we were finally granted custody of his 3 children from his first marriage and 2 months later we discovered that we were prego with a child of our own. So the first year of marriage was not your typical Honey Moon with loves and kisses. We lived in a 2 bedroom apartment where the 3 kids shared a room and once the baby was born her crib was set up. In the first year of marriage I had to adjust to being married, being a mom, and being pregnant. So besides the fact that I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and every time I get stressed I dive right back into my coping of depression I had the wonderful pregnancy hormones to make me that more crazy. I learned that talking things out with my friends has made me not so crazy. This blog will be a place where I can share with my friends the wonderful experiences of being a step mother and dealing with an insane (by my own diagnosis) ex wife and mother to my stepies.