Mother's Day Clean-Up
1 week ago
Thursday, December 31, 2009
New Year...
On New Years Eve we stay up until midnight to ring in the new year. My kids are determined to stay up until midnight. Now the question is should I let them? I know that if they stay up super late even if they sleep in they are still ornery and annoying the next day. I have had a hard enough time with them the past couple of days since they have come back from being with their mom for a week. They have no rules over there and are usually covered head to toe in bruises and scratches from their cousins. When I ask them to do something it usually requires me to ask 3 times and then yell at the top of my lungs which startles them and then I feel bad. But they could be staring at a spot on the wall and I can ask nicely until the cows come home and it would never be heard. Kinda makes me wonder why type of communication goes on over there.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
MY Wii
For Christmas Husband bought ME a Wii. He made it very, very clear that it was for me not the kids not the family. I turned it on today and well 5 min later this is what happened.
Intro...
I am writing this blog kind of as an online journal. I share with my family and friends the crazy things that I get to experience as a step mom or as we call it in our family a "bonus" mom.
First of all the children are older and know the difference between me and their "real" mom as I am reminded when they come back from visitation.
Second we have an understanding that I am a parent in our home and they do not have to call me mom or refer to me as their mom but if I ask them to clean something up or help me with something they need to do it right away because they know if they don't do it when I ask them to it will be even worse when their dad gets home. If dad has to ask them to do something I have already asked they get a lecture about keeping things clean and setting an example for their baby sister.
Third I encourage the children to love their mother (for some crazy reason their mom has told them that I want to replace her) and have a relationship with their mother.
Having lived in a split home most of my childhood, where I did not know my father at all and my step dad was a jerk and never wanted any of us in the first place, All of these things that my stepies and I have as our silent contract were thing forced on me plus more.
My husband and I have been married for just under 2 years and shortly after our wedding in 2008 we were finally granted custody of his 3 children from his first marriage and 2 months later we discovered that we were prego with a child of our own. So the first year of marriage was not your typical Honey Moon with loves and kisses. We lived in a 2 bedroom apartment where the 3 kids shared a room and once the baby was born her crib was set up. In the first year of marriage I had to adjust to being married, being a mom, and being pregnant. So besides the fact that I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and every time I get stressed I dive right back into my coping of depression I had the wonderful pregnancy hormones to make me that more crazy. I learned that talking things out with my friends has made me not so crazy. This blog will be a place where I can share with my friends the wonderful experiences of being a step mother and dealing with an insane (by my own diagnosis) ex wife and mother to my stepies.
First of all the children are older and know the difference between me and their "real" mom as I am reminded when they come back from visitation.
Second we have an understanding that I am a parent in our home and they do not have to call me mom or refer to me as their mom but if I ask them to clean something up or help me with something they need to do it right away because they know if they don't do it when I ask them to it will be even worse when their dad gets home. If dad has to ask them to do something I have already asked they get a lecture about keeping things clean and setting an example for their baby sister.
Third I encourage the children to love their mother (for some crazy reason their mom has told them that I want to replace her) and have a relationship with their mother.
Having lived in a split home most of my childhood, where I did not know my father at all and my step dad was a jerk and never wanted any of us in the first place, All of these things that my stepies and I have as our silent contract were thing forced on me plus more.
My husband and I have been married for just under 2 years and shortly after our wedding in 2008 we were finally granted custody of his 3 children from his first marriage and 2 months later we discovered that we were prego with a child of our own. So the first year of marriage was not your typical Honey Moon with loves and kisses. We lived in a 2 bedroom apartment where the 3 kids shared a room and once the baby was born her crib was set up. In the first year of marriage I had to adjust to being married, being a mom, and being pregnant. So besides the fact that I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and every time I get stressed I dive right back into my coping of depression I had the wonderful pregnancy hormones to make me that more crazy. I learned that talking things out with my friends has made me not so crazy. This blog will be a place where I can share with my friends the wonderful experiences of being a step mother and dealing with an insane (by my own diagnosis) ex wife and mother to my stepies.
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